London's Therapy
Therapy for men
You don’t have to be falling apart to need therapy. Maybe you’re doing fine at work but struggling at home. Or you’re successful but unhappy. Or perhaps your relationship is suffering. Lots of men feel constantly stressed and can’t switch off. Others just have a feeling that things aren’t quite right, but you can’t put your finger on why. I work with men in North London and online who want to understand what’s going on and make some changes.
Why therapy?
A lot of men I work with feel uncomfortable asking for help. Many have spent years working things out themselves - they just 'get on with things', keep busy, work harder and try to stay in control.
That can get you a long way, but it doesn’t work forever because something often happens to throw you off course: a relationship struggling; work becoming too much; becoming a parent; losing someone; or just realising you're not as happy as you could be.
That’s often when people start thinking about therapy.
What might bring you to therapy?
- “I’m stressed all the time" - If you can't switch off and you're thinking about work when you’re at home and home when you’re at work.
- “My relationship isn’t working" - You’re arguing, withdrawing or avoiding difficult conversations. You're feeling misunderstood.
- “I’m angry but not sure why" - You find yourself getting irritated by things that wouldn’t normally bother you.
- “I’ve lost my mojo” You’re getting through the day, but you don’t feel particularly interested in much anymore.
- “I'm successful but unhappy” - This can be one of the hardest things to admit.
It’s possible to be successful, have people who love you and still feel lost or unhappy.
- "I've become a parent and feel lost" - you suddenly feel out of control
What happens in therapy?
There’s no single way you’re 'supposed' to do therapy.
We’ll start with what’s happening in your life now (no prep needed!). I’ll try to understand what’s brought you here, what’s difficult right now and what you’d like to be different.
As we go, we’ll look at some of the patterns that might be affecting you - including patterns in relationships, ways of dealing with difficult emotions and things you may have learned earlier in life.
Sometimes that means talking about the past. Sometimes it means focusing very much on what’s happening now. We’ll work it out together.